Feeling Alone in a Crowded World? A guide to Coping with loneliness

A lonely woman

We are living in a social era with connected devices around us 24x7. Yet, we are alone in this big world. During the family get-together, each of us are connected to our devices rather than talking to the people around us. The trust amongst people has also reduced due to the same reason. So during this world of Chaos, its only logical for you to feel lonely. Its the story of each one of us you know. In the chaos of our everyday lives—rushing between deadlines, surviving office politics, enduring heartbreak, or just feeling like no one truly understands us—it’s easy to feel lost. Some of us smile outwardly, but inside, there’s a quiet scream:

“Does anyone see me? Does anyone care? Why am I alive? Is it worth living this life? Why was I even born? Why am I not lucky enough to be loved by others?”

Last year for me was toughest and I spend most of the time banging my head to the walls and looking for the answers. I came across this MASTER KEY FOR LIFE in my house and ended up looking for answers in it. I purchased Shrimad Bhagawat Gita 8 years back, but it was so big, I ended up putting it in the house temple. I have gone through it description by description without the Sanskrit Shlokas, for me to continue reading it (I otherwise would have gotten bored). This blog is a little spiritual but I am sure you would get some answers from it, so please bear with me and read through. I hope it helps you in coping with loneliness.

The Bhagavad Gita is more than just a holy book. It’s a divine conversation between a confused soul and the loving guidance of God. I would use the word God throughout, but feel free to replace it with The Universe, or The Eternal Power, or whatever energy that motivates you. Everything is same, as long as it gets you going. It was spoken thousands of years ago, but its wisdom is timeless—especially for you, the overworked professional, the misunderstood artist, the lonely heart, the silent sufferer.

If you feel like the world doesn’t listen—know this: God does.

Let this post be a warm hug to your soul. A guide to rediscover strength, calm, purpose—and the assurance that you’re not alone.

Coping with Loneliness

PERSONAL LIFE: Love Without Clinging

We often love with expectations. We give, hoping to receive. But when people ignore us, forget us, or don’t return that love, it breaks us. Why shouldn't we feel sad, after all we are giving our energy and love to someone. We give our soul to someone and what do we get in return, the betrayal?

But the quote really blew the mind. The Gita says:

“You have the right to perform your duties, but not to the fruits of your actions.“ — Gita 2.47

“कर्म करो, फल की चिंता मत करो “ — भगवद गीता 2.47

This means: Love people, but don’t be attached to how they respond. Serve your parents, friends, or even a partner with a full heart—but don’t tie your happiness to their reactions. After all, only your actions are in your hand. How can you control others right? You can only hope that they will act according to your mind. There may be some manipulation tactics, but I am not talking about that situation. Its all natural in this post.

Here The Gita teaches duty (dharma) and detachment (tyāga)—two pillars of peace. When you serve your family or friends selflessly, without clinging to rewards or reciprocation, you liberate yourself from expectations.



Key Insights:

• Do your best; release the rest.


• Turn loneliness into devotion.


• True love isn’t ownership—it’s spiritual connection.

Simple Shifts to Try:

• Send a kind message, even if they don’t reply.

• Be present for someone, even if they aren’t there for you, don't overdo it though.

• Keep your heart soft—Krishna notices, even if they don’t.

Remember, your goodness is not wasted. Every act done with a clean heart is seen and honored—by the divine.

PROFESSIONAL LIFE: Work as Worship

In the office, you might give your 100%—and still feel invisible. Promotions go to others. Credit is taken by someone else. You may wonder :

“Why Try?”

Workplace stress often comes from obsessing over promotions, recognition, or comparison. When we focus on what is in our hand and not on others, the situations become favorable eventually. Obviously, when people treat you like shit, detaching from the situation is also your Karma (The Duty). Its your choice to be in a situation, but remember, the outcome lies in. God's hand. The Gita says :

“Do your duty with discipline and detachment. Success or failure—leave it to Me.” — Gita 2.48



Key Practices:

• Karma Yoga: Work as worship.


• Balanced Living: “He who is temperate in eating, sleeping, working, and recreation... mitigates all sorrows.” — Gita 6.17


• Mind Management: “For one who has conquered the mind, the mind is the best friend...” — Gita 6.6

This isn’t just philosophy—it’s your power move.

When you see your work as service to God rather than a way to impress your boss or peers, your focus sharpens, stress drops, and you start glowing from within. It takes away the work stress from within.

Try This Daily:

• Before work, say: “Krushńha, this is for You.”

• Work with integrity, not for applause. Never cheat to become office popular.

• Take breaks to breathe, pray, or listen to a calming chant.

You’re not just a job title. You’re a soul doing divine service.

MENTAL STRENGTH: Tame Your Inner Storm

You might be smiling outside but fighting anxiety inside. You may overthink every message, replay every mistake, or constantly doubt yourself. I am sure most of you can relate because its the story of most of the people in today's world. There are two worlds we live in, one is the physical world and the other one is a virtual world, in our mind. Mental peace isn’t about avoiding problems—it’s about building resilience.

Krishna says:

“A person must lift themselves by their own mind. The mind is both friend and enemy.” — Gita 6.5

Your mind is like a wild horse. If you don’t guide it, it drags you through guilt, fear, and shame. But if you train it, it will take you to peace.



Mental Wellness Lessons:
 

• Mind as Friend or Enemy
- Samatvam (Equanimity)


• Letting Go


• Inner Confidence: “Take refuge in Me. Do not fear as said in the quote : ”Abandon all varieties of duties and just surrender unto Me. I shall deliver you from all sinful reactions. Do not fear.” — Gita 18.66

How to Strengthen Your Mind:

• Spend 10 minutes in silence every morning.

• Journal your thoughts—let them flow.

• Chant, “Hare Krishna” or your own version of God softly or in your mind. It grounds you.

When you can sit still and smile—that’s power. That’s what real control looks like.

SPIRITUALITY: Connection Over Ritual

Spirituality isn’t incense sticks or long mantras—it’s compassion, surrender, and alignment with higher truth.

 It isn’t about being perfect. You don’t need to wake up at 4 AM, wear robes, or chant endlessly (unless you want to, its the choice you want to make). Gita says:

”One who is friendly to all beings, free from envy, and devoted to Me is very dear to Me.” — Gita 12.13

also,

“To those who constantly think of Me with love, I give the understanding by which they can come to Me.” — Gita 10.10

Daily Spiritual Habits:

• See God in everyone.


• Serve without expectations.


• Chant, read, or meditate.


• Let your heart rest in trust, not tension.

It’s about having a heartfelt connection with the divine. A simple, honest relationship.

You can start now:

• Speak to God as you are. “Krishna, I’m tired. Help me.”

• Offer your tea, your day, your success — and even your stress — to Him.

• Light a candle or play a bhajan while cleaning your home. Let it be sacred.

You’re never too broken or too late. Krishna listens. He always has. Your journey begins as soon as you wake up, even at the age of 30, 40, 50 or more.....

ROMANTIC LIFE: Let Go Without Bitterness

Modern love is often loaded with unrealistic expectations. 

If you don't call before going to bed, even that's a mess. Heartbreak feels like dying while still breathing. You gave your all, and now you feel discarded. Most of the relationships are perfect nowadays, but only on Social Media Platforms. In reality, no one is perfect. Any human has flaws and the acceptance makes a couple happy and any relationship healthy. Many marriages ends up in divorce nowadays due to comparison because of the social media. Remember, the true relationship is the one where two souls are connected. Love is not ownership but spiritual companionship.

The Gita reminds us:

“Whatever happens, happens for good. Whatever is happening, is happening for good. Whatever will happen, will also happen for good.”

I read one quote from Steve Harvey which truly aligns with the above statement. The quote said "Be grateful for the people god has removed from your life. He has heard the conversations which we did not", another one from someone said "To be an eagle, you need to fly higher. You cant argue with crows and fly with them. Change your altitude and whoever is not supposed to be with you will be filtered from your life."

So Yes, even this heartbreak is what supposed to happen, its for your own good. And yes, it can be good for both the sides as well right?



Spiritual Take on Relationships:

• Love is service, not score-keeping.

• No human can fulfill your soul’s longing.

• Don’t love out of need. Love out of completeness.

• Be patient with imperfection.

Truths That Heal:

• Sometimes, rejection is redirection—from Krishna.

• Real love never hurts your soul—it elevates it.

• The person who didn’t value your heart wasn’t meant to keep it.

Instead of asking, “Why did they leave me?” ask, “What is Krishna protecting me from?”

God doesn’t take away what you want. He takes away what would destroy you.

BEHAVIOR WITH STRANGERS: Be the Light You Crave

We have to be the one who is without hatred towards all beings, who is friendly and compassionate, as said by the the quote:

“He who is kind to all living beings is very dear to Me.” — Gita 12.13

or the Sanskrit version :

"अद्वेष्टा सर्वभूतानां, मैत्रः करुण एव च" — भगवद गीता  12.13

This verse describes the qualities of a devotee dear to Krishna, emphasizing universal love, absence of animosity, and profound empathy for all living creatures.

We live in a harsh world. So many people feel unseen, unheard, unloved—just like you. But change starts from within. You can't expect someone to change if you are not willing to change yourself. You can't expect someone to love you if you don't love yourself.

Be That Person:

• Smile at strangers.

• Say “thank you” to your delivery guy, labor, grocery person, every soul you meet.

• Speak gently.


• Treat everyone equally.

• Help without wanting credit.


• Listen more. Judge less.

Even a small act of kindness becomes an offering to God.

BEHAVIOR WITH ENEMIES: Don’t Carry Poison

Enemies aren’t just people—they're resentments, triggers, and inner shadows. We feel like we'll show them what they deserve. Let them have the taste of their own medicine. After all, they wronged us and this is what they deserve. People were talking shit about me. They were saying the things I didn't even think, forget doing. I thought I will go to the person responsible and show them what's what. But it would have made me a person I am not. The true values should not be changed because of someone, They should be in your heart always.

“The wise see with equal vision a Brahmana, a cow, an elephant, a dog, and an outcast.” — Gita 5.18

Never get affected by someone's actions. You are not wise if someone says something and it affects you. Many of the things stay in our hearts and we think we will do something. Choose your own battles, not everything in the world needed your reaction. Yes, they betrayed you. Yes, it hurt. But holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting them to suffer.

“A wise person is equal in honor and dishonor, friend and foe.” — Gita 6.9



Enemy Wisdom:


• React with awareness.


• Forgive for your own peace.


• Disagree with dignity.


• See pain in their behavior.

You’re not forgiving them for them. You’re forgiving them for you.

Try This:

• Write a letter you don’t send—just release the pain.

• Say in your heart, “I forgive you. Krishna will deal with you.”

• Walk lighter. Sleep easier.

Vengeance is heavy. Forgiveness is freeing.

TO THE ONE WHO FEELS ALONE: This Is For You

You, who scroll social media with a heavy heart…

You, who cry at night, wishing someone would just understand…

You, who are tired of being “the strong one” all the time…

Even if the world forgets you—Krishna never will.

This is your divine reminder:

“I am in everyone’s heart.” — Gita 15.15

Final Words: From Battlefield to Inner Peace,

“ Surrender to Me. I will carry your burdens. Do not fear.” — Gita 18.66

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This is not about becoming passive—it’s about acting from peace, not panic.

You are a soul. And you are never alone.

You don’t have to fake being okay. Just speak to Him. He listens, even to your silence.

But in case you want a human companion, just mail me and I will be the companion to you. I may not be a person who gives the solution, because I may not be in your situation, but I can at least listen to your story and hope that situations change for you. Stay Happy.

Final Takeaways — Gita’s Golden Rules

1. Work with sincerity. Don’t crave results.

2. Love fully, without needing anything back, without the fear of loss

3. Control the mind—it’s your biggest asset. Train your mind—it’s your best friend or worst enemy.

4. Stay soft-hearted in a hard world. Rest your trust in divine grace.

5. Let go. Let God. See God in all beings

6. Be kind—even to yourself. Forgive—don’t carry poison for others and yourself.

7. Remember Krishna—even just once a day. Surrender. Not in weakness, but in deepstrength.

You’re Not Alone — Krishna is Listening

If this message touched even one thread of your heart, then remember:

This was Krishna talking to you, through these words. I am a tool he used to share these things and he is informing you that he listens. You are seen. You are loved. You are never alone.

Share this with someone who may be silently struggling. Be the reason they smile today.

Jai Shri Krishna.

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